Letting Go...

“Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” ~Dalai Lama

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If there’s one thing we all have in common it’s that we want to feel happy; and on the other side of that coin, we want to avoid hurting. Yet we consistently put ourselves in situations that set us up for pain.

We pin our happiness to people, circumstances, and things and hold onto them for dear life. We stress about the possibility of losing them when something seems amiss. Then we melt into grief when something changes—a lay off, a break up, a transfer.

We attach to feelings as if they define us, and ironically, not just positive ones. If you’ve wallowed in regret or disappointment for years, it can seem safe and even comforting to suffer.

In trying to hold on to what’s familiar, we limit our ability to experience joy in the present.  A moment can’t possibly radiate fully when you’re suffocating it in fear.

When you stop trying to grasp, own, and control the world around you, you give it the freedom to fulfill you without the power to destroy you. That’s why letting go is so important: letting go is letting happiness in.

                                                                   " ~http://zenhabits.net/zen-attachment/

Easier said or thought of, than done!

I clearly remember the first time I was in a desert... I was 6 or 7! It was so amusing to take the sand in my hand and then see it... while I was letting it go in the strong wind... like small grains of gold flying away in the shining sun!

Eventually, my dad had to ruin it all by scolding me that it will fly in my eyes... :-)

But, it doesn't seem so simple any more!

I figured that staying busy with other things is the best way of letting something go... but then it doesn't work always - as its' more like avoiding something rather than getting over it! Infact this way, its' more like throwing a ball on a wall - the stronger you throw it, the harder it comes back to you!

A day, a week, or a month doesn't seem enough any more, no matter how much I tell myself that eventually it would simply go away... the wind of life will blow it away just like the sand grains, no matter how beautiful or shiny they were!


             

I give in to the moments that I so much want to let go. It sometimes makes me weak ~ just the thought that I chose something which was so transient! Am full of regrets!
I wish that we always remember what we choose to remember and love what we choose to love!

But then, as I try to enlighten myself - i realize that I still carry those sands! I would never be able to let them go... and I realize that life is not just about enjoying the present, it is also about cherishing everything that has happened to you in the past, as that is a part of you!

So I smile, look out to the sky and and all i can feel is gratitude!

~ No Regrets! ~